As someone who has been severely struggling with anxiety and a disregulated nervous system for nearly 7 years, Pema Chodron’s “When Things Fall Apart” and “The Places That Scare You” have tremendously helped me.

Pema writes about how you should meditate and sit with your feelings and get familiar with being uncomfortable, and also practice loving-kindness – being compassionate and gentle with yourself as Emma states in her third point.

I’ve come to realize that I’ve been so anxious, distressed, and physically unwell due to my disregulated nervous system for years because I’ve spent the whole time running away, disassociating, fighting, and having a “i need to fix this” mentality towards my anxiety and negative emotions/thoughts. I’m also an asshole to myself (due to my upbringing and having emotionally unavailable/abusive parents) and am extremely impatient so I’ve been in this toxic cycle. I’m trying to implement letting things be and feeling all the feels even if it’s hard, and being kind to myself. I literally only realized this and have been implementing this recently and so it’s been so difficult because again, I’ve been accustomed to avoiding and distracting, and judging myself for so long.

If anyone else is on this journey I definitely recommend you to look into Pema Chodron’s teachings. And remember to be kind to yourself no matter what. It’s so incredibly hard but we can do this.

I pay a few dollars a month for a Adam Savage's extra channel on YouTube. I'd pay a bit of money a month for a channel like this. $50 in one pop for a course is a bit much, but like $2.99-$4.99 a month I would do if it keeps quality content that is helpful to me. Or access to groups with other recovering folks

please please please please PLEASE somebody please help :/ i dont really have a whole lot of an idea of whats happening with my brain n memory n its kinda flippin me out! sometimes, like a few minutes ago ill smell something n itll trigger, not just an emotion but basically a straight up flashback to old good times 20 years ago, im 34 now and became addicted to opioids around the time my grandmother died when i was about 14, yea wasted more than half my life so far :/ that makes me feel great when that runs thru my head.. also the reason she died was FROM overdosing on opiates..n my dumbass goes n does that..?? tf?.. anyway since then there unfortunately hasnt been any significant amount of time that i was clean n my body could recover, anything more than a few months at best but iv been trying the past few years n especially the past year, iv cut back on this Fn suboxone junk doctors give u as far as i possibly can and still tolerate being alive, but the past few months, along with withdrawal iv been getting absolutely amazing feelings in my head, i genuinely feel like iv woken up after 15 years, my brains suddenly conscious again.. and its a little much at once to b completely honest.. how would i deal with HARDcore emotions n feeling i get from flashbacks like that, one of the main feelings is that i miss those old times, another part is that its jarring having memories that vivid i totally understand if ppl read this n their eyebrows r simply raised with no idea how to help.. in fact i kind of expect that, its not exactly the most common thing..

This Is effective with OCD? Have a Nice day 🙂

Emma, this background music is really soothing and beautiful. Who is the guitarist?

Using computers and electronic devices has a devastating effect on the nervous system. My meditation teacher always warns us about it it – he keeps his computer use to an absolute minimum.

This video is very much useful for me as I'm very much prone to be anxious all the time.

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Okay so just 'thankyou' – thankyou for saying that "while trauma changes the brain, healing does also" so many people/sites/experts/podcasts whatever, say 'trauma changes the brain' and then just leave it like that So way to go – CSA survivors just have a whole load of secondary abuse crap dumped on them, when they could easily say what you have just said HEALING CHANGES THE BRAIN ALSO! alleluia – we are not just 'damaged goods' for nonsurvivors to dump their own insecurities upon but living, breathing HEALING people – most of which is done by US I would add as the rest of society is too disconnected to give a dam! Facing feelings, running towards them, and feeling also works with triggers – but with triggers use insight, make sure you're safe, and remember that the current 'overreaction' might really be a reaction to past trauma.

Hi Emma can you do a video on Depersonalization and Derealization ?

After getting diagnosed with POTS and going through 4 months of treatment I've discovered that 80-90% of what I thought and had been told by countless professional over 20+ years were mental issues were in reality physical issues. Don't get me wrong, there's still some mental issues there, but the best thing I've ever been able to do to help my whole autonomic system is getting a proper diagnosis

Hey, I loved your video, thank you! I wanted to show it to my grandparents but they don't speak English. Have you ever considered translating your content into different languages?

Hello Therapy in a Nutshell! Good day! I am Angelo, 27, and I am currently experiencing anxiety after my cat passed away a month ago. This anxiety is further aggravated with the animal injustices/cruelty that I'm witnessing, especially in my workplace where the head, directress, owner, office staffs, and some of my co-teachers normalize k*lling cats. I own several cats and I am very compassionate about animals. I confronted, one time, the directress about this issue (since she's so accustomed to k*lling cats) but she just did a fake smile and said "Want to take home cats? I have a sack here". Btw that woman commands the gardener to put cats in a sack and left them under the sun to die. One time, I saved a cat that they put in a sack and recorded it for others'awareness of their cruelty, but no one seems unbothered by the directress' action— not even my co-teachers. I want to suggest doing TNR instead of putting them in a sack. But, I highly doubt they will do it as they are very stingy and financially and morally corrupt. I've been planning to do TNR on my own, but my salary isn't enough, plus I don't think people around me will support me as many of them treat animals horribly (also, I already have 27 cats in our house— some of them are adopted strays while others are the offspring of our adopted strays). I told the directress that if only I had a very large house and enough resources, I would adopt all the cats that they're catching, but I don't have. I want to report the directress to the police but I have no enough evidence for my claim of animal cruelty and I have no enough money to do it. Also, I feel like no one will support me if I report that evil woman to the police. Together with my anxiety, I've been feeling extremely angry, frustrated, helpless, desperate, and unsupported. I've been feeling this for a month now and yesterday I broke down again. How can I cope with this type of injustice or ignore their depravity? How can I deal with these multiple uncomfortable emotions/feelings— grief, guilt, and anxiety due to pet loss accompanied by anger, frustration, despair, helplessness, and loneliness from the animal cruelty that I've been witnessing? Thank you so much.

I’m very grateful for you and your channel. Thank you for taking the time to create these videos. 😊🙏🏼🌟💛🌟

Might be really helpful for some folks if we had a kind of reference about what is exactly "The good solid college try" for something, and when "we're being silly about it and wasting time". I know I have my own kind of dubious judgment on the matter, and so far, it's seemed to serve me pretty well… BUT from the younger generations who seem to think "If it hasn't helped me in 3 minutes, this is NEVER going to work" to the hard-liners with their own "If it hasn't helped you yet, just keep doing it" version… It can be a damnably dubious and frustrating world of rabbit holes and pitfalls to try to differentiate when "enough" is actually enough, and when we should be stepping back and looking around to questions "Okay, what the hell am I missing here? This ain't working!"

You never know… I might even learn a thing or 3… ;o)

I’ve been practicing and training for years and you drove right to the heart of the issue in less than 10 minutes. And that’s why I send my clients to watch your videos. Thank you!

Really love ❤the way you explain very much clear and crisp….

Thank you so much for the video, and sharing very valuable lessons …. 🙏

You are such an amazing therapist and human! I've been following you for several years, so glad to see you have over 1 million subs, you help so many people and I'm thankful for you! ❤️

When nothing helps I watch a video of yours. Always does the Trick:)
You've helped me so much, thank you Emma !

I love that this video ended with emphasis on not trying to chase out your emotions. Willingness is so powerful, and empowering.